BASIC VALIDATION PRINCIPLES

this morning i’m joined by local psychologist dr. samantha scott with some tips to help. basic validation principles listen!! listen to your child and repeat back what you hear him/her saying. check your accuracy. offer your child your hunch about what saying. check your accuracy. offer your child your hunch about what he/she is feeling and thinking and then hunch about what he/she is feeling and thinking and then ask, “did i get that right?”be ready to be told no! be patient. when you get it wrong, ask your child to explain it again.remind your child how important it is to you that you understand. wait to communicate until you and your child are calm and in control . validate intent. your child may have made a poor decision unintentionally or the events following his/her actions just did not work out.if you are disappointed in the outcome, your child may be as well! validate feelings. you can always validate how your child is feeling. feelings are internal and personal.you do not have to have the same feelings as your child to appreciate them! validate the context. attempt to understand what led your child to making a decision or acting a certain way. no buts! do not add a “but..” to the end of your validation! basic validation principles listen!! listen to your child and repeat back what you hear him/her saying. check your accuracy. offer your child your check your accuracy. offer your child your hunch about what he/she is feeling and thinking and then ask, “did i get that right?”be ready to be told no! be patient. when you get it wrong, ask your child to explain it again.remind your child how important it is to you that you understand. wait to communicate until you and your child are calm and in control . validate intent. your child may have made a poor decision unintentionally or the events following his/her actions just did not work out.if you are disappointed in the outcome, your child may be as well! validate feelings. you can always validate how your child is feeling. feelings are internal and personal.you do not have to have the same feelings as your child to appreciate them! validate the context. attempt to understand what led your child to making a decision or acting a certain way. no buts! do not add a “but..” to the end of your validation! basic validation principles listen!! listen to your child and repeat back what you hear him/her saying. check your accuracy. offer your child your hunch about what he/she is feeling and thinking and then ask, “did i get that right?”be ready to be told no! be patient. when you get it wrong, ask your child to explain it again.remind your child how important it is to you that you understand. wait to communicate until you and your ahead.